Sex and the City 3? Some suggestions from a fan.

Rumor has it that there will be a third Sex and the City film.  As a fan who has seen every episode of the series multiple times, as well as the first two films, I would be enthusiastic to find out what my favorite foursome is currently up to – at least, I would be, if it weren’t for the last sequel.

The problem is, Sex and the City 2 SUCKED.  It’s hard to describe how awful it was, but many critics managed to tear the movie apart – and honestly, it deserved the beating it got in the press.  It really was that bad.

And that’s why there should be a third film.  The story of the New York women we’ve loved for the past 16 years deserves to end on a better note.

Not everyone agrees with me.  Many viewers argue that although they enjoyed watching it when it aired, the series was no more than a materialistic, consumerist fantasy about four narcissists with no redeeming value or morality whatsoever.  But this accusation is unfair.  The series, and the first film, worked because it juggled the escapism of luxurious living in the big city with character arcs that fans could relate to.

The second film, unfortunately, forgot why the audience loved the series and completely abandoned any character development, while putting materialism and consumerism center stage.

And everyone hates it.

But all is not lost.  If the franchise can reclaim what used to be the best aspect of the series – the relatable characters – then Sex and the City 3 could be terrific.  Here are some suggestions for each character for the final chapter – from a diehard fan.


What she learned in the series: Don’t judge a book by its cover.

Charlotte has always been a perfectionist, and she picked her first husband Trey because he looked perfect on the outside.  She didn’t realize until it was too late that although he looked like a leading man, he was, in reality, a selfish wimp still holding his mother’s apron strings.  After her marriage inevitably failed, she – and the fans – fell in love with Harry.  Short, bald, and slightly overweight, Harry didn’t look like a winner, but his strength, courage, and good heart won us all over, and forced Charlotte to reconsider how she evaluated the men she dated.  When they got married, we all cheered.

What the first film got right:

Hello!  After struggling for years to conceive (and adopting an adorable little girl), Charlotte and Harry finally had a baby!  Yay!

Where the second film failed:

I get Charlotte worrying that Harry might cheat with the young, attractive nanny.  She’s always been insecure.  But the film didn’t resolve this insecurity.  It erased the problem – “No worries, the nanny likes girls!”  This is not only unsatisfying, it’s incredibly unfair to Harry.  Would he have cheated on Charlotte if the opportunity arose, or would he resist the temptation?  My guess is the latter, but unfortunately, we will never know. Boooooo.

Third film suggestions: Give Charlotte and Harry some real stakes.  Parenting is difficult, and it can drive a wedge in any relationship.


What she learned in the series: A successful marriage depends on compromise.

Miranda’s always been the most practical character on the show, but she’s also the most stubborn.  This works well for her in her career, but not so much in her love life.  But when she and her on-again/off-again boyfriend Steve got pregnant, she was forced to adapt.  The two worked together to raise Brady at first, and eventually realized that they were meant to be together.  Once they got married, Miranda steadily learned the value of compromising for her family’s sake – first by moving from Manhattan to Brooklyn, and then through helping Steve care for his aging mom.  By the final episode, we couldn’t help but admire her for the compassion she had developed.

What the first film got right:

When Steve confessed his affair to Miranda, my heart broke for them.  Steve has always been immature, but also sweet and loving.  When she chose to forgive Steve for his mistake and leave the past behind, I couldn’t believe this was the same uncompromising Miranda I’d met in the first episode.  That moment they embraced on the Brooklyn Bridge brought tears to my eyes – and I wasn’t the only one tearing up in the theater.

Where the second film failed:

Miranda takes her career seriously.  The series established that she’s a respected partner at her law firm.  And now, all of a sudden, her boss is sexist and treats her disrespectfully?  I call shenanigans.

Third film suggestions: Why doesn’t Miranda start her own law firm?


What she learned in the series: Be true to yourself.

Samantha’s always been a bit of a cartoon.  Her story lines were usually the comic relief of each episode (and supplied most of the obligatory nude scenes).  That said, when she did fall in love (which was rare), she typically gave up everything for the person she was with.  She even tried to be a lesbian because she cared so much about Maria!  And when she met Richard, she didn’t leave him when he called her a slut, when he made her cry, or even when he cheated on her.  She eventually met Smith, who taught her that she could be in a relationship without giving herself up.  He taught her was real love looked like – and that she deserved to be loved.

What the first film got right:

When Smith and Samantha broke up in the film, it made sense.  She was repeating old patterns – putting her needs last and ignoring her true desires, and neither of them wanted Samantha to give up who she was for the relationship.  Their break-up was classy, just like Samantha.

Where the second film failed:

Here again, the film forgets that Samantha is an accomplished career woman.  A successful PR agent working for a hotel in a Muslim country would never hook up with someone on a public beach while she was on the job – I don’t care how handsome he was.  She’s wild – she isn’t an idiot.

Third film suggestions: Samantha realizes she isn’t a relationship person, and she is definitely not a baby person, but what if she realizes that she’s been a dog person all her life and never known it!  Maybe she opens a shelter and meets another dog lover…


What she learned in the series: Too much drama isn’t good for a relationship – but there should always be a spark.

Carrie begins the series as a single girl who has given up on love.  But when she meets Big, they fall in love almost immediately.  They have an intense romance, but he’s afraid of committing to her.  Unfortunately, this only pulls Carrie in deeper, partly because she enjoys the challenge, and partly because she has a masochistic streak.  He breaks her heart multiple times, and as the series progresses, she grows tired of his games.  Eventually, she gives up on him and commits to an artist, who seems more stable and committed to her.  She even gives up her job and life in New York to live with him in Paris.  But when she discovers that he doesn’t want her to live a life of her own, and that he expects her to be at his beck and call, she realizes that she needs freedom too – and that settling for less than real love isn’t worth it.  As she discovers this, Big realizes that he’s always loved Carrie and that she’s worth committing himself to completely, and he travels to Paris to win her back.  He succeeds, and the series ends with the two of them moving in together and starting a new life together, accepting each other for who they truly are.

What the first film got right:

The movie’s plot reflected the main problem in Carrie and Big’s relationship – Carrie pushes Big too hard and when he balks, she walks.  But by the end of the film, she realizes her mistake, just as Big makes a big gesture to win her back.  They’re both a little crazy, but that’s why they work well together, and that’s why we love them.

Where the second film failed:

Oh my gosh, where do I start!  Everything about her character was wrong in this movie.  She’s always pushed Big to be less selfish, but in this movie she was a nagging shrew.  In the series, she sticks by her friends and usually takes their advice.  But in the film, when Charlotte questions the wisdom of her dinner date with an ex-boyfriend, she snaps at her and almost makes her cry!  Speaking of Aidan, Carrie’s flirtation with him doesn’t make much sense either.  She was thoroughly punished by Karma in the series for cheating on him in the first place, and I’m pretty sure she learned her lesson about the risks of infidelity.  I just don’t see her flirting with the idea of cheating – not after what she went through in the series.  Carrie can be selfish, but she’s not this selfish.

Third film suggestions: 

I’m not sure, but the writers have to re-humanize Carrie somehow.  She has to be redeemed, through some kind of selfless act.  I heard a rumor that Big may have a child from a previous relationship – becoming a step-mom could be one way for Carrie to get her soul back.

What are your suggestions for Sex and the City 3?  Would you go to see a third movie?

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