I’ve been avoiding my blog lately, and making all sorts of excuses for why I’m not working on it. And I think I finally know why. In the last two years, my vision for this blog has changed significantly, and I haven’t been able to articulate it, but I’m going to try today.
When I began blogging, my main focus was on losing weight. I wrote mainly about health, food, and motivation. But, the more I researched health and weight loss online, the more disillusioned I became with my goals. Too many healthy women feel like they are inadequate because they aren’t skinny. Too many children hate their bodies and starve themselves out of a fear of growing fat. And way, way too many people in general equate being overweight with laziness and a lack of character.
Now that I’m pregnant again, I have to change my focus. Losing weight right now would be dangerous for little Violet and for me. So I’m changing my vision. I plan to eat healthy, and walk everyday. Once Violet is born, I can up the intensity some, but I still won’t worry about my weight. In fact, I’ll never worry about losing weight again.
If I’m eating right, and I’m active everyday, then I’ll be healthy, no matter what my body looks like. When I focus on losing weight, I get frustrated and I don’t follow through on my goals. And that’s because my vision is limited to my own vanity. If my focus is on my health, then I’ll not only be more successful, I’ll be happier – even if I don’t get slim.
If you are reading this and you are worried about whether your body is “good enough,” I’d like you to read the following passage from the Bible. It’s from the book of Proverbs, and this passage is considered by most Christians to be a blueprint of the ideal woman:
Proverbs 31: 10-31
The Wife of Noble Character
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Here’s what I get from this passage: the ideal woman is hardworking, trustworthy, wise, strong, generous, compassionate, stylish, joyful, and unafraid of growing older.
She is not necessarily beautiful. She’s definitely not vain, but she does have her own sense of style (wearing fine linen and purple). Most importantly, her appearance is not her primary focus. So, it’s not going to be mine either.
When you read this passage, which verse jumps out at you as something you can relate to?
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